Rose has been my massage
therapist for several years now. Usually I don't talk much during my
massage—just lie there and enjoy. But yesterday, I was in the mood
to ask her questions about her and her life. I knew so little about
her.
Now in her mid-fifties,
she has been in this country about sixteen years. Originally she and
her family are from Croatia, a country east of Italy and north of
Greece.
Rose has a rather strong
accent and sometimes still struggles with her English. She will pause
in talking to me and say almost to herself, “How to say . . .”
She told me that when she first came to the United States, she talked
a lot with her hands to make herself understood. Now as a massage
therapist, she talks with her strong, caring hands to make others
feel better.
She was already married
with two children when her homeland of Croatia began a bitter, harsh
civil war. Money and food became scarce, and Rose and her family had
begun to sell the things in their house to buy food, but the things
of value were getting to be fewer and fewer. Many were illegally
leaving the country.
Rose's only sibling, a
beloved brother had been killed before the war in an automobile
accident. His girlfriend whom he was going to marry was pregnant with
their son at the time of his death. Her brother's girlfriend had
already fled to Germany with her young son, Rose's only nephew.
With her two children, a nine-year-old son and a toddler daughter, Rose went to “visit”
her young nephew in Germany. The young family was actually fleeing to
the safety that was Hanover in Northern Germany. Her husband came
many months later. Rose and her family lived in Germany for five
years.
In the meantime her
husband's brother and his family had relocated to Minnesota. Rose and
her husband moved there when their children were 14 and 8 years old.
A year or so after that move, they came to the warmer climate of
Nashville.
Of course, the family
spoke the Croatia language. Rose's children were learning English in
their respective schools, though her teenaged son in particular was
shy about speaking English for fear of making a mistake and being
ridiculed. Rose herself had not been exposed to much English.
Her
husband became a truck driver, and she began to work at Target on
White Bridge Road, near where they first lived. Working the 11pm til
7am night shift to stock shelves, again Rose was not exposed to many
English-people speaking. Because she could not speak English and
communicate with customers, she wasn't allowed to work at Target in
the daytime. The night crew was encouraged to work faster and faster,
thus sometimes when the work was done, they would be sent home at 4
or 5 or 6 am. Of course, they lost income. While there she met
another woman from Croatia, and they became fast friends. Her new
friend Lucy had two young sons.
Rose did not like the job
at Target nor the hours. In her home country she had worked in a
hospital. So she began to work at an assisted living center in
Bellevue, taking care of the residents. For her, it was a job filled
with sadness because the people would sicken and be moved to another
facility or die in their sleep. She would miss them too much after
they had left. By now her family was living in Bellevue.
Her son mentioned that a
friend of his had become a massage therapist and really liked her
job. He said that perhaps Rose would like that kind of work. But
first to get into massage school, she had to pass a test. It was, of
course, written in English. The first time she took the test, having
to read each question several times to understand it, she only got
about half way through the test, and she failed it. Ten days later,
she went back to take the test again; she was praying to God to help
her. About two-thirds the way through the test, the time was called
for “five more minutes!” She prayed again, and without time to
read, just went through the remainder of the test, marking answers at
random!
As she sat in the lobby,
waiting for her results, she just knew that she had failed again. But
soon the proctor came out and told her that she had passed, and
that's how she got into massage school, where she found everyone so
helpful to her! She continued to work at the assisted living center
and went to school in the evenings. School was challenging, but she
worked hard and graduated.
Once she got her massage
license, she worked a while for a chiropractor in Cool Springs—a
long drive. Then she heard about her present job here in Bellevue and
has been there for six years. Recently her 24-year-old daughter, who
is in law school, married one of Lucy's son; and now her 30-year-old
son will marry next May, a young woman from Lavern, TN.
Rose's story is unique,
yet it is probably representative of many people who immigrate to the
United States. Most of them leave their homelands because of strife,
face the unknown with enormous courage, and work hard against untold
odds to make a home in this country. We who have never been forced to
leave our homelands are fortunate, and I, for one, am pleased that so
many people have found a sanctuary for themselves in the USA, as did
most of our forefathers and mothers.
